Posted 10 months ago
Wed 11 Oct, 2023 12:10 PM
Moving away from home and into a new flat with a group of people you don't know can be challenging...
We know it can be disappointing to not find your new best friends in your flatmates. Inevitably having different lifestyles, habits and expectations from each other might bring its challenging moments.
There can be different reasons why you're having difficulties with living with your flatmates. Maybe it's down to your housemates having loud parties, not clearing up after themselves or maybe having guests? Whatever it is, we've got some advice & support for you...
Acknowledging that it hasn't gone to plan
Try to be as open minded to the idea that you might live with people who just aren't your people. Living in university accommodation with people you don't know is part of the whole experience. Try not to panic if you think it's something that can't work out or be resolved. Instead, try to take things day by day and not think too far ahead as this can be super overwhelming. Give yourself credit for taking the plunge to move move away from home and for giving it a go....you are amazing! Check out our article on Living with people who 'aren't your people' here
Communicate
We know that communicating is absolutely easier said than done but communicating well with your flatmates doesn't have to be so tricky. Even making an effort with small talk, or asking how their day went or how they're doing can really go a long way. Even if you're not the best of friends with your flatmates, it doesn't mean you can't get along or enjoy your experience of living together.
Want to approach a more awkward conversation such as keeping noise down, having less guests or doing their part in keeping the flat clean? Only approach a conversation like this when you feel calm, level headed and ready. It'll be difficult to find a solution if the people involved in the conversation are not in the right frame of mind. Want more advise on addressing conflict fairly? Check out Student Minds' advice here.
Chat to your Residential Adviser
Your Residential Adviser is on hand throughout the year to offer support and advice for any issues you might be experiencing. If you are struggling with your flatmates or with living in your flat, don't be afraid to reach out to your RA to let them know. You can talk about your issues with flatmates and keep it anonymous.
RAs are often students themselves and have first hand experience of dealing with difficult conversations. The chances are that your RA will know and understanding where you're coming from when it comes to issues with flatmates. Your RA can chat with you, offer practical advice, support and make suggestions for how things can be improved. You can find your RA's contact details in posters in your kitchen or corridor.
Moving rooms....
Hopefully you won't be in a position where you consider moving rooms but of course where your situation becomes unmanageable, this might be something you think about. Moving rooms should be a last resort but if this is something you're thinking about, be sure to speak to the Accommodation Team for advice (accommodation@liverpool.ac.uk or 0151 795 0319).
